Greatest Love of All: Celebrating Bi+ Visibility with J.D. Baker

Image with bisexual flag colors and white text reading, Freedom Oklahoma celebrates Bi-Visibility Week September 16-23, 2019

Image with bisexual flag colors and white text reading, Freedom Oklahoma celebrates Bi-Visibility Week September 16-23, 2019

J.D. Baker is a sixth-generation Oklahoma City native and serves as a Special Assistant to Mayor David Holt and is the liaison to the LGBTQ community for the Mayor’s Office. An alumnus of the University of Oklahoma, he was previously awarded the Outstanding LGBTQ Advocate award as a student.

J.D. Baker is a sixth-generation Oklahoma City native and serves as a Special Assistant to Mayor David Holt and is the liaison to the LGBTQ community for the Mayor’s Office. An alumnus of the University of Oklahoma, he was previously awarded the Outstanding LGBTQ Advocate award as a student.

I decided long ago
Never to walk in anyone's shadows
If I fail, if I succeed
At least I'll live as I believe
No matter what they take from me
They can't take away my dignity
- Whitney Houston
, Greatest Love of All

This is the bridge in Whitney Houston’s 1985 chart-topping cover.
I found this to be an accurate depiction of how I feel as a bisexual cisgender man. Identifying as bisexual can feel a bit trapping. Often times, society wants us to “pick a side” or figure which team we’re on. Some people even believe that bisexuality is just a phase for some people to transition from their heteronormative upbringing to living life as a gay or lesbian person. 

A friend once humorously asked me, regarding my bisexuality, “Why so greedy?” 
In response I stated, “Well when you look this good, why would you deny yourself to anybody?”

The truth is, is bisexuality is not only real, but it is the most common identity within the LGBTQ community. I’m not attracted to a single gender, I’m attracted to an array of bodies, minds, and hearts. I don’t have to place limits around gender. 

Once I finally became comfortable in my skin, I said: “f*ck it.” I don’t care what anyone else says, I know who I am. “I’ll live as I believe, No matter what they take from me, They can't take away my dignity.” I am who I am and I’m DAMN PROUD of it. Dr. Suess said, “Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You.” I am me and I found the greatest love of all inside of me. My advice to my fellow bisexual people is summed by the last line of Greatest Love of All: “Find your strength in love.”